Ever read the biblical story about Adam and Eve? To make a long story short: God created Adam. God created Eve. Eve wanted forbidden fruit. Adam abided. Both were banished from paradise.
The moral of the story? Adam gave what eve wanted and paid the price. Okay okay, I admit, I am skewing things a little with half-truths, but giving in to a woman’s whims and desires simply when she asked for it is suicide to your love life.
What’re they (gals) looking for? True, gals look for guys as providers. They swoon over the strong and the silence. They adore the broad shoulders that they can lean on, the big hands that bring in the food and the dough. That is why nature made the male species the stronger sex. (Watching all that discovery channel does help). But like the lion that lords over his brood of lionesses, the man must rise above the ladies in order to prove their worth. Submitting to the female’s want, tell her she can lord over her partner, an authority that she does not value.
A girl friend once explained a strange rationale to me. She had three ex-boyfriends – all three pampered her with gifts and obeyed her wishes to the T. she ditched tall three. Yet, now she is happily with a guy who has never bought her flowers, who rarely says yes when she asks him to go on a shopping trip with her, or simply put, seems less desirable than the three ex-boyfriends put together. The reason for her choice –she feels a sense of security with this guy. She admitted, “Women are weird creatures. They need to be refused, retorted or even rebuked to feel loved.”
In any case, women do not necessarily know what they want. “What a Girl wants”, as the song goes, is a mystery to both the men and the ladies. Somehow, the female brain is designed to think, not to get to a conclusion.
To prove my point, join a woman in her shopping trip. She may hate working out in a gym, but the moment she steps into a mall, boy, can she power walk! In the boutique, blouses, tube-tops and spaghetti-strap tops change hands faster than shares in the brokerage. In most instances, she leaves the boutique empty-handed hours later, not knowing what to get. If she actually makes a purchase, chances are, it hangs in the wardrobe untouched for a long, long time. Why then bother giving her what she wants, when she doesn’t even know what that is?
Here is my brotherly advice: Don’t get me wrong, guys. I’m saying you can keep those wallets safely in your pockets and never take them out for your gal agaim. You still have to please the lady in order to get her. According to a website that dispenses dating advice, a man should never give a woman everything she wants because doing that will leave her with nothing to discover, nothing to chase, no mystery.
My take? Give woman what they NEED, not WANT. When they ask for something, refuse it. When they plead, enjoy the moment. Only when they grovel at your feet, then you know whatever they are requesting is a necessity to them, not a frivolous desire. Make them thirst for their desires, so that when they finally get it from you, the victory they think they win is sweeter.
Less is more. And the women will love you for it. Trust me.
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